I think it's definitely time to move out

I just can't stand being in the same place anymore. Commuting to college isn't all that bad, but living at home fucking sucks. Despite my family's reassurances that things would change once I'm 18 and in college, it hasn't changed one bit. I feel like I'm back to being a freshman in high school again. Not to mention every day I drive past the same shit I did every day of high school. I don't really have the best memories of that place. I always felt depressed, like I wasn't doing something right. I was always trying way too hard to get piss poor results. The only thing I ever did well was music, and eventually that's what basically destroyed me my senior year. Plus every place I drive past reminds me of my ex now, who I still can't get over. She broke up with me in my first week of college, which coincidentally happened to be my first week starting at Best Buy. She knew how scared and stressed I was about the whole situation. And now almost all of my best friends are gone off to college, and we can't all hang like we used to. Theres not that comforting group feeling anymore. But now everywhere I go here is just a bad memory. And no matter how hard I try to work things out with my parents it comes to no lasting conclusion. Give it 3 hours and were all back to yelling at each other like fucking World War 3. I just want to make it on my own for a change. I'm sick of feeling dependent.

Sorry about the rant guys. I'm just feeling more and more depressed every day lately, and I haven't ever talked to anyone about it.

If you can do it somehow, go for it. But you don't want to let your emotions get the best of you and then you're asking to move back in.

I used to argue with my parents all the time, i feel like it's just best to agree with them even if you don't believe what they're saying to avoid an arguement.

Jobs are jobs, just give it some time.

As for women and stuff reminding you of them, it's a common problem but you're in college there's plenty of single women waiting for you and new friends to meet. It does suck to not be able to hang with friends you spent a lot of time with and grew up together but schedules usually conflict.

A change of scenery doesn't sound like a bad idea to me.

damn,that's how I feel about my place too lol. If you can get out I'd at least try it, try to get a cheap apartment on your own, or maybe if your school has dorms even that sounds better, I argue alot too, I have an extremely dysfunctional family lol

Yeah if you can do it and still be financially ok then go for it. Sounds like you could use a change. As for everything else.

Jobs are jobs and they pretty much all universally suck and come with copious amounts of bullshit you need to deal with. Dealing with shit and people is something you need to learn to do. Just try and go with the flow as much as possible and remind yourself that your current employment situation is just temporary and will get better.

Girls...they can be tricky. Fall for the wring one and that shit can ruin you in more ways than one. That being said I would hope that you're too young for that to happen. If it's a first love type thing then yeah it can take quite a while to get over something like that so just give it some time. Try not to get hung up and just meet some new people and mingle a bit. Once you're out of college or uni the dating game is a whole hell of a lot bleaker...you have to enjoy the ride while it lasts.

This might sound a little harsh but I don't see the loss of your high school friends as that big of a deal. Sure in the moment it sucks but a lot of the time people lose touch with the people they went to high school with...it's been 10 years since I left high school and it's been pretty much 10 years since I've talked to anyone I went to high school with and it doesn't bother me one bit. People change and grow apart.

You're not really "you" yet when you graduate high school. You still have quite a bit of road ahead of you in way of personal development. People are still finding themselves at college. The people you meet in college have a better chance at being a lasting connection because you both have a better idea of who you are as people. So get out and meet new people. Go to parties. Tell people you play music and have random jams with as many people as you can. I've met so many people that way that I'm friends with to this day.

TL;DR Shit's changing...don't fight it, just go with it. Use it to your advantage.

Stay there. It sucks so much cock living on your own.

true. Instead of worrying about arguing with your parents, you're going to be worrying about money to eat and shit. I guess pick your poison, the world's a bitch out there lol.

I would choose arguing over not being able to eat any day.

1) Apply to transfer over to Madison with your good buddy Pariah
2) Get accepted into the school of music, or letters and sciences
3) Live off campus with friends, or in a frat (much much cheaper than dorms)
4) Transfer to work in a best buy here in town
5) Drown in the easy college girls looking to "get crazzzzyyyyy tonight woooooo!!" and forget all about whats-er-face.



On a serious note, if you honestly think you can, transfer to a different university and move out. You'd be shocked at how well you can do on financial aid alone, and living accommodations can be really cheap if you're ok with taking the bus or walking. And if you do consider Madison at all, talk to Danny, since he'll know a lot about residency in the city. I've already found my spot for next year.

Internet hugs!

Move if that's what will make you happy.

And stay away from girls.  They're evil.


Or go live in Pariah's closet for a while.

sheep wrote:Internet hugs!

Move if that's what will make you happy.

And stay away from girls.  They're evil.


Or go live in Pariah's closet for a while.

hahahaha, this post.

Sorry guys I just sort of couldn't deal with it for the last month or two, and it all just bubbled to the surface.

I think i'm dead set on moving at this point. I sat down and talked with the folks, and after explaining to them that my grades and studying are severely suffering, and we need to work something out as a family, still nothing has changed. I don't know how else to ask for help and to ask for space. All I want is to live my life as my own independent person, but I don't get that respect at home.
And no Pariah, as much as I want to I'm not transferring until I am done with my two programs here. If I transfer for the sake of wanting to party and forget about the past then I'm not doing my future any good. I am in the best program in the state for what I want to do, and I already have internships and employers that are interested in me for this summer and as soon as I'm out of school.
My biggest roadblock right now is finding a place where I'm comfortable. I have no where and no one to fall back on, and It's just been scary. It sucks when I try to have a mature talk with my parents about life and instead they take it as an excuse to look through all the papers in my backpack, check for anything graded, and search my room for drugs or alcohol. I feel like I'm on lockdown.

How old are you?

Wtf your parents are still searching your shit?

What exactly are you pursuing there? I didn't realize that school had many top-tier programs.

And I was mostly joking with the partying. This place can be really relaxed.

Graphic Design and web and digital media design. The program is actually phenomenal. Iv'e talked to people who transferred from MIAD and all the top tier art schools and they say it's soooo much more difficult and rewarding at WCTC. I also toured a bunch of other places and absolutely hated the program they offered. After I'm done, depending on what my potential employers want, I may go to Carroll or something else around and finish up my Bachelors in business applications or something lame.
I'll give you that a lot of the other programs here are bullshit though  

Also Sym, 18 and a freshman at college. This shit has been going on for about 4 years though.

BmmFlash wrote:
I'll give you that a lot of the other programs here are bullshit though  

At least let me clarify that anything HANDS ON is amazing here.
Lawyer-ing, doctor-ing, and other careers that require tons of schooling, not so much.

Are they paying your tuition? That's the only way I can see searching for grades being reasonable.

Either way they seem to have some boundary problems. Most parents won't stop seeing you as a kid and under their thumb if you are still living at home. Save up some money, see if there are any other college guys (no girls!) looking for roomies and moooove out of that shit.

Don't listen to sheep's reasonable advice.

Pick all girls.
Don't sleep with them or their friends.
BUT...do use them as wingmen.

I typed a big paragraph, but then deleted it because I felt it was to harsh.

I'll just say (in the voice of a wise old indian man): Move young one. It will be good for you. You will learn you many things and you will grow wiser in the ways of the world.

sheep wrote:Are they paying your tuition?  That's the only way I can see searching for grades being reasonable.

Either way they seem to have some boundary problems.  Most parents won't stop seeing you as a kid and under their thumb if you are still living at home.  Save up some money, see if there are any other college guys (no girls!) looking for roomies and moooove out of that shit.

Nope, tuitions on me.

And moving in with girls to have as wingmen sounds awesome!
And Metal im interested in what you had to say now lol

Moving out and not seeing my parents everyday is the best thing thats ever happened to our relationship. When I go and visit now theyre always happy to see me, and I actually enjoy their presence now that theyre not like my babysitters anymore.

Frostbyrn wrote:Before he deleted it Metal said to find one of those girls that likes to date guys that are projects

He said she would let you mooch off her for free and live with her

He is a despicable human being

I feel like that's a play out of the playbook... not bad, not bad. I'd try it lol

yea try to find a decent cheap place to live, I couldn't stand having somebody up in my ass/business like that...especially technically being a man at 18 you are now. What would they really do if your grades were bad at this point, spank you? lol.


I don't get along with mine at all either, like my mom alot more than my dad though

sheep wrote:Internet hugs!

Move if that's what will make you happy.

And stay away from girls.  They're evil.


Or go live in Pariah's closet for a while.

It's actually quite a comfy place......

JrTapia1991 wrote:What would they really do if your grades were bad at this point, spank you? lol.

Exactly. I flat out said to them there is nothing you can do that would affect me in any way. The only motivation I'm going to get is from me. All forms of discipline have literally no meaning anymore.

I moved out from my parents like 3 days after graduating haha

Sym wrote:I moved out from my parents like 3 days after graduating haha

Same here. Moved away from home to Seattle the week after graduation. Good (and poor) times.

Feel free to have female wingmen, but DO NOT live with them.

Disaster. Plus you'll never get any bathroom time lol