God I hate being stuck in the friend zone.

It sucks balls. I'm almost 18, and have never had a girlfriend. Hell I dont even think a girl has ever even liked me. So I've never had a girlfriend, but I have had countless friends who are girls, more then guys even. And boy I can tell you, it sucks like hell to be hanging out with them and all they go on is about the guy they like(who also happens to be your friend). Or when you hang out and go somewhere they are always climbing all over him or hugging him or holding his hands. That has got to be one of the most painful feelings in the world.

Of course I wish I wasn't such a pussy and just tell them how I feel

My .02 as i never had a GF till i was 22.

I regret never telling this girl in highschool i was infatuated with her. I was in the friend zone and to this day i wished i had said something. Even if it's not what you want to here atleast you said it.

It's tough but i've learned to live with few regrets and that was one i can't shake.

Tell her before you can't ever tell her.

Dropped Da Soap wrote:It sucks balls. I'm almost 18, and have never had a girlfriend. Hell I dont even think a girl has ever even liked me. So I've never had a girlfriend, but I have had countless friends who are girls, more then guys even. And boy I can tell you, it sucks like hell to be hanging out with them and all they go on is about the guy they like(who also happens to be your friend). Or when you hang out and go somewhere they are always climbing all over him or hugging him or holding his hands. That has got to be one of the most painful feelings in the world.

Of course I wish I wasn't such a pussy and just tell them how I feel

Do it, or you will probably regret it for the rest of your life (I'm not being an ass, I really mean it, from personal experience). Find the right time to tell her, and if you truly love her, tell her. Don't wait until it's too late, and somebody else finds her, or she loses all interest in you, because you will be a very miserable person, for a very long time.

I agree with most of the advice here, but don't profess love too early dude.

Tell her you like her and move on from there, professing love right off the bat rarely works out. It could, but the chances are slim.

oh definitely don't bow down and say you worship the ground she walks on. that usually leads to buh bye.

Friends is a start and from there your much closer to become her man vs' some guy that likes her.

the only thing that i will say is this:

girls at your age are frickin' weird. they're discovering themselves, they have a lot of peer pressure to deal with, even if they did like a guy outside of their own social circle or who isn't up to par with her friends' ideal of how hot a boy should be, she might never act on it for fear of ridicule.

your life will vastly improve once you are out of high school, everything is so much more chill, there isn't that constant cloud of "must be accepted/cool/popular" hanging over your head, because in the real world everyone is a frickin' dork in some way or another.

the people who still try and be the cool kid will never be the cool kid, because there is no such thing. everybody got their somethin' that makes them weird in way or another.

dealing with girls will become easier for you in time.

Words ofwisdom heebs.

Yeah fellas, peep the words from Heebs.

She just dropped some knowledge on ya.

I feel good... like we just helped a young man out..

*bops shoulders a little bit
*pops collar

This is just like me in high school. I feel for you man I was EXACTLY there. You just gotta hang in there and don't be afraid to put yourself on the line. Now I never turned around and dated one of my friends from high school, but since I've graduated I have had a girl who said she just wanted to be friends change her mind and now we are really happy. you will be alright as long as you just remain true to yourself

Just be a stud

There's nothing worse than being completely infatuated with your absolute best friend. >_>

Yeah, professing unending devotion right off the bat might make her run screaming from the room.

It would make me do that. I've never liked hearing that I'm someone's entire world. It's hella scary and puts pressure on you, like you've gotta be there with this person or something horrible will happen. Not a cool feeling.

But also don't be afraid to say anything! Balls! Balls my man!

Set the wheels in motion!

This is all nice advice, but what he needs is a solution to the problem.

I suggest you call her. Put her on speaker. Somehow allow SeC members to listen in (skype from your laptop? I don't know), then we can post uber smooth things that you can say to her.

You're welcome in advance.

^^^
HAHA

This.

I can imagine a thousand suggestions at once just flooding in...

LMFAO! That would be amazing!

dude soap i feel for you, in highschool right now, what i would do is when she is single go to a dance or movie with some other people but "as friends" and it might go from there. not sure if this is good advice but i would have tried it but the girl i liked wasnt single and then stopped talking to me.... mabye listening to me is a bad idea =/

Sorry guysbut that's a big no to the skype or speakerphone idea. I don't trust you guys enough to do that. No offense lol. Last thing I need is Bla shouting stuff

Dropped Da Soap wrote:Sorry guysbut that's a big no to the skype or speakerphone idea. I don't trust you guys enough to do that. No offense lol. Last thing I need is Bla shouting stuff

But we would type things not actually talk.

Just be funny, playful, and laidback. Some girls dig guys who aren't afraid to be all over the chick, but most dig guys who are strong-willed, independent, and laidback. Telling them won't work out unless they like you, but you won't have a slight clue if they like you unless you're being somewhat flirty and playful. Dude chicks dig funny.

Funny/charm>Looks

Confidence is the first step, the rest is knowing how to carry things out. Take things easy. Also you gotta leave some to the imagination. Like don't spill out your lifestory, all your hobbies, etc. when you talk to a girl after you get her number. Mysteriousness is intriguing. Intriguing is what you want then the girl can see who you really are, slowly. Of course this doesn't apply to every girl, but it's pretty common.

Just be yourself (farting or doing questionably rude things that you do with your buddies isn't being yourself really) and just be "whatever". I wanna say "to not care is to be cool" but that's not really true.

brother mouzon wrote:This is all nice advice, but what he needs is a solution to the problem.

I suggest you call her. Put her on speaker. Somehow allow SeC members to listen in (skype from your laptop? I don't know), then we can post uber smooth things that you can say to her.

You're welcome in advance.

This. Sounds. Brilliant.

It also has unlimited lulz potential.

For the record Bla is really normal when I've talked to him outside of the site

I know Terry I was joking around

I've had the misfortune of falling madly in love with a few girls who have had me in the friend zone.

The first step is to recognize your failure. This chick is never going to want you. If she did, you wouldn't be listening to her cry about her horrible boyfriend while she gives you blue balls. This isn't some kind of reflection on you as a man (hell, I've had plenty of girls not put me in the friend zone), just on this one relationship. You blew it. You're the friend.

The second step is to recognize her for the evil bitch she is. She keeps you around because you're safe. You're like a dumb puppy who always wants to cuddle up and lick her face no matter how many times she's kicked you away. She probably knows you have feelings for her (because you've probably told her and got turned down), but still runs your heart through the wringer as often as she fools around with some guy that's not you.

The third step is to evict her from your life. This is the hard part. Tell her the truth. "I cannot be 'JUST FRIENDS' with you. My feelings are too strong to be content with just friendship. If you don't want something more, we're done."

That's it. You walk away. She's not going to suddenly change her mind like in the movies, she's just going to have find her next cuddlebitch.

Here's the bright side. She's infinitely replaceable. There are so many women out there that you're going to find someone better. It's science.

I know it's hard to feel that way when you're totally in love (or think you're in love) with someone, but it's the damn Baby Jesus truth.

blackholedreams wrote:I know it's hard to feel that way when you're totally in love (or think you're in love) with someone, but it's the damn Baby Jesus truth.

this produced much lulz, jsyk

LusciousHeebs wrote:

blackholedreams wrote:I know it's hard to feel that way when you're totally in love (or think you're in love) with someone, but it's the damn Baby Jesus truth.

this produced much lulz, jsyk

Blackholes comment + your avatar = lulzapolooza.

ROFL.

So true BHD, I couldn't had said it better myself. Also in your in the friendzone because you don't got the guts to tell her you like her, or to ask her out on a date or something. Its your fault and not her, if you don't make a move how is she suppose to assume anything other then that you don't like her? You have to be flirtly and "hit" on her, not try and become her friend and then hope out of nowhere she falls in love with you.


Also don't be one of those jerks who think because they listen to her cry about her BF, that in repayment she has to have sex with you or she a cold hearted bitch.

http://xkcd.com/513/