I think I learned a life lesson tonight....

If you not:
a) muscular
b) rich
c) play sports
then girls don't want shit to do with you.

depends what kind of girls.

Shaymojack wrote:depends what kind of girls.

This is true!

My guy only fits A & B. The only sport he plays is hoops in the driveway.

slightly untrue. my man fits beneath none of these categories, and actually i am way, way out of his league looks-wise, and he knows it (not being egotistical, it are fact).

so, there are girls out there who are interested in you for things besides your muscles, money, or sports playing skills, you just have to wait for them to come along.

true story.

Well I have met one girl that liked me for me, and I won't see her for a long time, if ever.
All the others would rather have one month flings with the fuckin jerk off jocks, than a relationship with the nice guys, that won't treat them like this months fuck.

dude, you're in high school. life is a giant pile of shit at this stage of your life, trust me when you get outta there and into the real world, it's gonna be so much better.

I play sports, I'm just terrible at em. Does that count?

Yeah. Teenage girls are absolutely nuts. Just wait. And then give them a year or two after highschool too because sometimes they need a little time to get it out of their system. Trust me, I work with a bunch of girls fresh out of HS and they make me want bash my head into a wall.

Idiots, the lot of them.

I'm sure there are some exceptions (like Mrz Hat) but most tend to be very... insane. I wasn't stable or reliable in HS. I had no idea what or who I wanted. Although, I never slept with any jocks. I just made friends with them.

xsilentshooterx wrote:Well I have met one girl that liked me for me, and I won't see her for a long time, if ever.
All the others would rather have one month flings with the fuckin jerk off jocks, than a relationship with the nice guys, that won't treat them like this months fuck.

That pretty much sums up high school, unfortunately.

Ya I know, but I still would like a relationship. Just having one that lasted 2 weeks just makes me feel bad.

Don't jump in too quick then? The relationships that I had when I was younger that lasted a long time, were the ones where I was friends with the person first. We were able to get to know each other and become somewhat invested before actually starting a relationship.

Where I jumped in and just started dating? Not so good.

Or you can date without being an actual official couple. If it develops, good, if not, no big deal.

i had a relationship in Jr. High that lasted 2 days, then i dumped the guy because all of my friends thought he was ugly. so what does that tell you?

you just gotta relax, and wait until HS is a minor speedbump in your past, then things are gonna start looking a helluva lot better. and like sheep said, give them a wide berth after HS, try hooking up with an older chick or something, they're less psycho.

We will guide you, grasshopper. lol

sheep wrote:We will guide you, grasshopper. lol

L-O-frickin'-L

Well we talked for a few weeks after meeting at a friends bday party. She asked me out. She dumped me but we stayed close friends until I started having feelings for a girl in our youth group Audrianna. I can honestly say that I loved her. We never "dated" but the feelings for each other were there.

And as for my school, it's more who ISNT a slut. This song pretty much sums it up.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3c2zxFiPZEs&feature=youtube_gdata_player

The 10% of high school girls who aren't completely stupid/shallow are the ones you should be looking for if you want an actual relationship.

Seriously, high school sucks and if you're going to base what your entire life is going to be like around that then what the fuck. In the real world popularity doesn't mean fuck all unless of course you're famous, but then again nobody poor is famous so yeah.

JDM_Jev wrote:The 10% of high school girls who aren't completely stupid/shallow are the ones you should be looking for if you want an actual relationship.

Seriously, high school sucks and if you're going to base what your entire life is going to be like around that then what the fuck. In the real world popularity doesn't mean fuck all unless of course you're famous, but then again nobody poor is famous so yeah.

bingo.

I'm aware HS =/= life, but it pisses me off that pretty much 90% of girls are sluts, and the other 10% either don't want to talk to me, or are already taken, or not looking for a relationship.

xsilentshooterx wrote:I'm aware HS =/= life, but it pisses me off that pretty much 90% of girls are sluts, and the other 10% either don't want to talk to me, or are already taken, or not looking for a relationship.

Sad but true fact of high school.

In high school to gets girls you have to be:

a)confidence: in your body image, in your hobbies(even if there nerdy, don't try to hide them, be proud of who you are) and be your own person. Don't do or say something because its the popular or easy way out. Be yourself and you will get noticed.

b) Have a good group of friends and make sure your friends respect you: Girls will take note of the guy who the "alpha" in his group, the guy that leads and who everyone else follows. It shows that other people like you and if they do, there must be a reason why.

c) If your funny, then be funny (just not the immature type funny) if your nice, be nice. Don't change yourself to fit what you think a girl wants you to be. If someone doesn't like you for you. She not worth it and what good is a relationship if you can't be yourself?

Also you have to aim realistic, don't go for the ultra hot girls who knowing there hot are used to guys hitting on them. They usually have a over inflated sense of self worth and might try to take advantage of your lust for them by stringing you along for favors or for the lols. Happened to me once, never go there. Make sure a girl know she isn't the center of your life, that if she doesn't want you, its her lost, not your. That somebody else will have you and that your to busy enjoying life with your friends then to worry about her. ( That before dating her anyway, once you get into a relationship its a whole other story.)

And on that note, its high school, have fun, there plenty of fish in the proverbial sea , true love at that age is a myth, no matter how in love you are thats just hormones and lust, the quicker you jump in and make mistakes, the quicker you will get it right. Don't over think things, etc, etc.

fighter4u wrote:In high school to gets girls you have to be:

a)confidence: in your body image, in your hobbies(even if there nerdy, don't try to hide them, be proud of who you are) and be your own person. Don't do or say something because its the popular or easy way out. Be yourself and you will get noticed.

b) Have a good group of friends and make sure your friends respect you: Girls will take note of the guy who the "alpha" in his group, the guy that leads and who everyone else follows. It shows that other people like you and if they do, there must be a reason why.

c) If your funny, then be funny (just not the immature type funny) if your nice, be nice. Don't change yourself to fit what you think a girl wants you to be. If someone doesn't like you for you. She not worth it and what good is a relationship if you can't be yourself?

Also you have to aim realistic, don't go for the ultra hot girls who knowing there hot are used to guys hitting on them. They usually have a over inflated sense of self worth and might try to take advantage of your lust for them by stringing you along for favors or for the lols. Happened to me once, never go there. Make sure a girl know she isn't the center of your life, that if she doesn't want you, its her lost, not your. That somebody else will have you and that your to busy enjoying life with your friends then to worry about her. ( That before dating her anyway, once you get into a relationship its a whole other story.)

And on that note, its high school, have fun, there plenty of fish in the proverbial sea , true love at that age is a myth, no matter how in love you are thats just hormones and lust, the quicker you jump in and make mistakes, the quicker you will get it right. Don't over think things, etc, etc.

Wait so even nerdy me could get a girl because I fit 2 of those 3 requirements.

Girls are like that....WOMEN are not. Seriously I like you guys, and dont get so antsy. It will happen. High school is bullshit. Use your energy to do well in school, get into college and get a good job. Seriously I wish I would have heeded my own advice.

Sym speaks truth.

xsilentshooterx wrote:If you not:
a) muscular
b) rich
c) play sports
then girls don't want shit to do with you.

Shit...that's not good, considering I'm:
a) flabby
b) broke like a joke
c) don't play sports

Your musician though, womens shirts take them self off around you.

Awesome MD wrote:Your musician though, womens shirts take them self off around you.

Not exactly a musician, but you know what does work on the ladies?
The "I'm in a band" line...

There you go guys....join your school band. problem solved.

Awesome MD wrote:There you go guys....join your school band. problem solved.

Lol xD

I couldn't care less about a relationship in high school, what's the point? It's better to be long and meaningful rather than short/retarded/stupid. Unless you find someone who you like and she/he respects you.

I know a girl that likes me because I am kind and don't care if they're different in activities because it's all fun to try them.

Don't worry about it, honestly. There are girls out there that aren't stupid, but it's totally not even worth worrying about Granted, there are the rare couple that actually last in high school and beyond (I'm one of those rare exceptions) but it doesn't happen a lot. Don't get me wrong -- it can happen, but even I know that it doesn't happen a lot, haha. Get through high school and worry about it then!

Mrs. Terry of Hat wrote:Don't worry about it, honestly. There are girls out there that aren't stupid, but it's totally not even worth worrying about Granted, there are the rare couple that actually last in high school and beyond (I'm one of those rare exceptions) but it doesn't happen a lot. Don't get me wrong -- it can happen, but even I know that it doesn't happen a lot, haha. Get through high school and worry about it then!

This^

My sister said the same thing to me. One of my teachers said "Raise your hand if you've had a girlfriend or boyfriend before." I didn't and several others but I was chosen t o give a reason why. And she agreed with me and said it's best that way. I tend to trust the people who have gone through high school rather than the immature kids in highschool >.<

You will get a ton of advice from anyone you ask, some of it good, some of it bad, some of it will work for you, some of it won't. Girls looking for rich guys, leave the rich guys when the money does, girls looking for jocks, leave the guy when he doesn't play sports anymore. The girls looking for muscles, leave the guy when those muscles turn to flab. Being yourself is what will always work. The only thing I can add to the ton of info you're getting, if your looking for something short term, that's what you will get, but if you want something longer or more serious you have to be honest with yourself about what kind of girl/woman your looking for, and if you can't see yourself dating a girl/woman for a few years, then don't. It really isn't rocket science, we just make harder than it really is, and remember your in high school, don't sweat it yet, enjoy the freedom you have now. Once you start a relationship you will lose some of it, no offense ladies.

Dude, there's no point in having a relationship in high school. Don't feel bad about it. Be a dick and just get laid, haha.

Well it's not that I'm really looking for a relationship or anything right now, it's just that most girls won't pay attention to you if your not one of a, b, or c. At least where I'm at. And I always think of relationships long term. I hate when people are Getting a new bf/gf every other month

Like everyone has said, in high school, its not worth trying to "find" one. Just be patient.

Girls are crazy. My girlfriend says she wants to get married after highschool, and I tell it to her face every time "No, unless you're interested in going to engineering school". Then she cries and I tell her to make me a sandwich.

But yeah, girls are honestly that unrealistic. I know this one girl and she had been dating some druggy guy for about a month and was having sex with him like "We're gonna be married by 20". Then he broke up with her "I don't have time for girls during lacrosse season" or something and she was honestly surprised. Seriously, wtf were you thinking.

I would say there's nothing wrong with having some short term or casual relationships. It gives you a chance to see different qualities in people and learn things, which will eventually help you realize when you've actually found someone worth being with for real.

blackholedreams wrote:I would say there's nothing wrong with having some short term or casual relationships. It gives you a chance to see different qualities in people and learn things, which will eventually help you realize when you've actually found someone worth being with for real.

I agree. Not every relationship is made to be or should be a long term one. Casual dating helps you discover what kind of person appeals to you the most, because sometimes what you think you want really isn't what you want or need.