DAMMIT! DAMMIT! DAMMIT!!. I got to hang out with the girl I liked today, and couldn't muster up the balls to say anything.

remember there are more times to do it than you think.

if the timings a little awkward it may look like you were just spontaneous

Just call her and let her know what's up.

Ok, most likely I'm not gonna be recognized since I've been gone for a coon's age (and I was barely recognized then), but I went through the same thing recently, so I'll try to help you out (by posting my story like above).

So, basically, I had a crush on this girl, and it all started when I first met her in 7th grade. Me, being myself, decided to just admire from afar as most of my crushes had ended badly, my feelings getting crushed. That, and she had a boyfriend. So, we're mutual friends really, yet I have a huge crush on her, but I decide to wait it out, because I was smart enough to know that it was probably just my hormones being out of whack. So, for the next couple of years, she goes from boyfriend to boyfriend, and I slowly start to lose my crush for her. Then, this past school year, she decided to sit at my lunch table one day. We then became pretty close friends, and my feelings started to be awakened, but they were more intense. I had a crush on her because of her body, but now that we were close I started to admire her personality.

Backstory: I have an anxiety disorder, that can sometimes inhibit me from doing normal things. This anxiety basically caused me to be scared of rejection, so I never went after girls and waited out my 'crushes'. It also made me worry that I would be a terrible boyfriend, or that I wouldn't be able to do things with girls because of my anxiety. It honestly had made me scared of anything intimate.

So, I'm scared to ask her out because I'm scared of her saying no and yes. So what did I do? I made a portrait of her. I am pretty good at drawing, and I thought that would win her over. I was somewhat wrong. I gave her the picture one day, and she looked confused and shocked because of it. I told her it was because I liked her, and immediately her face lit up. After that we started talking more, our conversations were more flirty, and I was pretty happy despite that getting the courage to tell her my feelings drained all the energy out of my body through a panic attack.

Yet, it got worse. Because I said I liked her instead of asking her out, I didn't get a yes or no, but I also didn't get a "I like you" or "I don't like you" so we were stuck in this limbo of love, and I knew she was waiting for me to make a move but I couldn't. I started getting paranoid every time she mentioned a boy. I was getting jealous of nothing. Then one day I heard a rumor that she and my best friend were going out. I lost it. I was shocked and betrayed, and it made me a mess. I didn't talk to anybody, I didn't leave my house, I basically became a shut-in because of my depression and anxiety.

School started today, and I saw her and talked to her. She's not with my friend (that I know of). I still feel like poop, but I feel a lot better.

Point of my story, just do it. Just tell her. Ask her out. If I can tell a girl I like her considering my situation, you should be able to tell a girl that you know already likes you.

its ok sugnod, none of us make SeC big time until sheep makes a topic professing her hatred of you.

some of us are still waiting.

what is she professes her.. liketred of you?

You don't have anything to talk about if you don't know anything about her. Find out something she likes. It's best if you can find some kind of commonality. Use that as an excuse to be with her more.


Talk to someone that knows her, become at least decent aquantances with them. Find out what she likes.

Get her started on a topic that she likes, and just sit there and listen to what ever she has to say. Make sure you chime in about it a bit, or paraphrase what she said and add something about it..

Or if she's not talkitive then you can blabber about the topic (that she is also interested in)... Just picture that you're talking to a friend about it.


Bonus if it's something that you both can go and do together or watch togeter or something (ie sports, games, ponys whatever).

Then ask her the fuck out. Just a simple... Hey have you seen that new movie? or whatever.

First date something simple like a movie. Second date something awesome... go horse back riding or something.


Just care for the friendzone. Make her at least think it's a date (if she says yes you could say in a corny way "its a date!"), not a friend thing.

Soap you're way over thinking this. And I'm not knocking you or anything trust me I was the same way as you when I was your age man so I know how hard it can be.

I was dateless all throughout highschool and was an extremely shy/nervous kid. I would even venture to say borderline antisocial/anxiety disorder. I had an extreme fear of rejection. But one day I just said "fuck it I'm tired of being alone and miserable. I'm gonna put myself out there and make some good things happen for myself" You can't just wait for things to happen you need to MAKE them happen. You can't be all down about yourself and worried and neurotic...that's a self fulfilling prophesy. You gotta realize that you're fucking awesome, you're the bees knees and you are gonna rock this girls world!

I remember when I first told a girl I liked her...it was my friends younger sister which at that point was the only girl who had ever wanted anything to do with me. We were both huge music nerds and we talked frequently so I obviously started crushing on her pretty bad. I figured I should tell her. I was such a nervous wreck and such a loser I had to do it over msn. She said she didn't feel the same just saw me as a friend. But you know I lived. I didn't die. My soul wasn't crushed and destroyed like I thought it would be. I was ok and I moved on. We don't really talk anymore but no big deal.

I know you're hung up on not wanting to ruin the friendship but if she isn't your best friend that you've known since 2nd grade and has helped you through hell and back then so what? No great loss. I know you'd probably beg to differ but it's just because you're crushing on her. Regular friends and acquaintances come and go. That's life. If you take the risk and the worst case scenario happens and she never speaks to you again then at the very least you can treat this as a learning opportunity.

But for anything to happen you've gotta, gotta, gotta take that first step. She even said she didn't expect you to make a move. I'm betting that if you did make the first move you'd get major bonus points and she'd be very pleasantly surprised. Just tell her "hey I've been meaning to tell you something for awhile. I really like you and would like to take you out on a date." And once you tell her you'll have a weight lifted from your shoulders!

So man up and just do it brother! We're all rooting for you!

And if parts of my post seem a little brash or harsh I apologize I'm just trying to light a fire under you Soap cause if you let this go on too much longer the friendzone will have a spot reserved with your name on it. And being in the friendzone sucks bigtime. I know I've been there a few times and it's pure torture.

i has idea but its the same as everyone elses so no point in anouncing it

I kno man, I know. I was in the friend zone for another friend for years. I hated every moment of it.
I mean sure, htere were nice perks. Like I was always one of the first ones she came to after another break up, or if she was upset.

But then there were the hard parts, she always wanted me to hang out with her and her BF at the time. And it was always pure hell watching her clinging to another guy.

But I don't know. I really want to say something to her, but I am also not sure if I want to wait till I get my license and my truck. Or just say something and ask if she wanted to wait till I got my truck or something. I don't know.

tell her you like her the ask if she'll wait for you to get the truck if she cant wait for that then you shouldnt even put up with her if she will wait then youve got a girl friend

I would advise you ask her out ASAP. She probably won't wait around forever for you to ask her out. She'll probably see that as you not being that interested in her and she could lose interest herself if she starts thinking that. Talk to her and find out when she's free next. Then make yourself available. Call in sick to work if you have to (as long as you don't get in too much trouble haha don't want you getting fired). And when you see her next ASK HER OUT!!!!! And either way at least then you can stop stressing about it.

Might do that. She is hoping to come and hnag out here today again. But she doesn't think her mom will let her drive out here 2 days in a row.

But if she comes out today, I will.

You better do it, or you will be shamed by us FooorEeeeveeeer.

Fine, I didn't want to be a Bronie anyways

Perverted Pony wrote:Might do that. She is hoping to come and hnag out here today again. But she doesn't think her mom will let her drive out here 2 days in a row.

But if she comes out today, I will.

If she can't come to you then you go to her! Find a ride/take a bus/bike if you have to!

Perverted Pony wrote:Fine, I didn't want to be a Bronie anyways

Not just the bronies. All of us.

Okay, she is coming over again today I WILL SAY SOMETHING

You better or else i will come over there and teach you your lesson.

The Honey Badger wrote:You better or else i will come over there and teach you your lesson.

With your penis?

If so, please teach me that lesson. UPSTAIRS.

Oh I have my ways that will scar him for life. So grrrrr lol

*purrs*

Epyk wrote:its ok sugnod, none of us make SeC big time until sheep makes a topic professing her hatred of you.

some of us are still waiting.

yup, i shot her in the back of the face with an M16 while she was wookie hunting and she shrugged it off.

she's hard to anger

PROFESSOR GRIZWALD! wrote:

Epyk wrote:its ok sugnod, none of us make SeC big time until sheep makes a topic professing her hatred of you.

some of us are still waiting.

yup, i shot her in the back of the face with an M16 while she was wookie hunting and she shrugged it off.

she's hard to anger

You guys just arent doing it right

Although Bla is back, maybe I don't have to tell her.

Epyk wrote:its ok sugnod, none of us make SeC big time until sheep makes a topic professing her hatred of you.

some of us are still waiting.

Lol, well considering my small post count, and the fact that the last time I got on here there were only maybe about 25 registered members, it's like I'm getting a new start


Either way, good luck TC. The cards seem heavily in your favor, so if you screw up a little it should be cool.

Of course i remember you Sugnod



Your the guy with the Stephen Colbert HVT card

Okay guys. How do you think I should go about telling her?

Should I tell her shortly after she first gets here?
Or should I wait until she is getting ready to leave?

I just don't know, and how should I tell her.

Should I just come right out with it and say it, or should I do something else?

Straight away



Always better to dive into a cold pool than psyche yourself out about how cold it is

in the middle of her visit its awkward if you tell someone something like that as soon as they walk in the door and if you tell them as they leave itll appear that you were scared to tell them

You do what you feel is right.... I say right away maybe after a few mins when you guys are into w/e you're doing.

Perverted Pony wrote:Okay guys. How do you think I should go about telling her?

Should I tell her shortly after she first gets here?
Or should I wait until she is getting ready to leave?

I just don't know, and how should I tell her.

Should I just come right out with it and say it, or should I do something else?

basically, dont let her slip into the 'friends zone'. if she thinks you just want to be friends then it gets complicated

But what if that just makes it awkward for the rest of the day?

haha go frost

Perverted Pony wrote:But what if that just makes it awkward for the rest of the day?

well what were you planning to do?

If I had the damn courage I would. I am going to tell her, no fucking doubt about that.

I just wish I was as outgoing in real life as I am in LIVE. That would make it so much easier.

I swear, if all of us from the SeC got together and hung out I would probably be the most quiet one out of everyone. Thats just who I am.

tell someone on here your number then they will call it and youll hand her the phone then the person that called your number will tell her you like her

I used to be shy



But now i just jump right in



Thats the problem with smart people they tend to overthink stuff and psyche themselves out

infadel117 wrote:tell someone on here your number then they will call it and youll hand her the phone then the person that called your number will tell her you like her

this is actually not a bad idea...

Take this advice lightly, but this is what I would do:

Let her like normal, and continue to do whatever you guys usually do when you hang out as if its any other day. Get comfortable, and that goes for both of you. Then, when you two get close (like sitting on the couch together) go for it. Make eye contact with her and be serious about it. Maybe grab her hands. Say her name (girls love hearing their name), and then something simple. 'i (really) like you, and I was wondering if we could go out together sometime' should be good enough, just keep it simple. Save the Shakespeare for if you guys get a steady relationship going.

And, if you get nervous or chicken out, maybe she's good at reading faces/emotions and might ask what's up or if anythings wrong. Maybe saying "I've had a lot on my mind" and if she asks what, then say her. Actually, that might be too corny.

Well that's my advice. Remember, I'm no ladies' man, just trying to help.

Zillah wrote:

infadel117 wrote:tell someone on here your number then they will call it and youll hand her the phone then the person that called your number will tell her you like her

this is actually not a bad idea...

Yeah its a horrible idea

No, thanks. I like you guys. But I am not about to let you guys talk to the girl I like and tell her for me.

I have to do it myself.

Frostbyrn wrote:
smart people they tend to overthink stuff and psyche themselves out

This

Sugnod wrote:Take this advice lightly, but this is what I would do:

Let her like normal, and continue to do whatever you guys usually do when you hang out as if its any other day. Get comfortable, and that goes for both of you. Then, when you two get close (like sitting on the couch together) go for it. Make eye contact with her and be serious about it. Maybe grab her hands. Say her name (girls love hearing their name), and then something simple. 'i (really) like you, and I was wondering if we could go out together sometime' should be good enough, just keep it simple. Save the Shakespeare for if you guys get a steady relationship going.

And, if you get nervous or chicken out, maybe she's good at reading faces/emotions and might ask what's up or if anythings wrong. Maybe saying "I've had a lot on my mind" and if she asks what, then say her. Actually, that might be too corny.

Well that's my advice. Remember, I'm no ladies' man, just trying to help.

I almost told her yesterday while we were sitting on the same love chair, and watching V For Vendetta. But I couldn't muster up the courage.

yeah ok but my idea still applies to your personal friends where you live you can trust them

Perverted Pony wrote:

I almost told her yesterday while we were sitting on the same love chair, and watching V For Vendetta. But I couldn't muster up the courage.

Lol that would've been perfect. You could've been like "Natalie Portman is still pretty hot bald, but you know who's hotter? You *cheesy smile*.....

*make out*

But no. Seriously, find the courage stored in your body somewhere. Be confident, or at least look confident. You've got my support, and everyone else on here.

Perverted Pony wrote:If I had the damn courage I would. I am going to tell her, no fucking doubt about that.

I just wish I was as outgoing in real life as I am in LIVE. That would make it so much easier.

I swear, if all of us from the SeC got together and hung out I would probably be the most quiet one out of everyone. Thats just who I am.

I would take my shirt off then tackle Zillah and Milk, in that order too.

chunckylover53 wrote:

Perverted Pony wrote:If I had the damn courage I would. I am going to tell her, no fucking doubt about that.

I just wish I was as outgoing in real life as I am in LIVE. That would make it so much easier.

I swear, if all of us from the SeC got together and hung out I would probably be the most quiet one out of everyone. Thats just who I am.

I would take my shirt off then tackle Zillah and Milk, in that order too.

i'd go find DL and see what all this bourbon fuss is about